Don’t Start With Why

Simon Sinek – a well known author, speaker and marketing consultant has a mantra – Start with Why. 

Anyone who has heard of him? Read the book? Watched the Ted Talks?

He is quite brilliant if I do say so myself.

The way he articulates that everything has a why, that your why is the purpose, cause or belief that inspires you, that people don’t buy your what, they buy your why … yes, he is simply ingenious and I agree with him 100%.

Today though, I’ll throw a spanner in the works and say that sometimes God doesn’t want us to start with the why but with the what. Basically the complete opposite of what the good ol’man Simon says. (Ha! Anyone remember the game “Simon Says?”) 😀

But Why Lord?

Some moons ago, or maybe just a moon ago, a really close friend of mine and I found ourselves in what we would call a really difficult season. Heeh! There is no fury like two female millennials scorned –  well, no not really, but you get the point.

We would sit and vent to each other half the time and the other half would be spent making a host of empty threats. Needless to say, we didn’t really make any progress.

Personally, I was having trouble with a particular person, a literal thorn in the flesh. For the life of me, I could not understand why our paths had to cross. Why we couldn’t just come to an understanding, why I had to spend night’s of crying myself to sleep because of hostility, why Jesus wouldn’t just take me away from that situation, why, why, why why– and if it isn’t obvious already, I really asked a lot of why’s .

“So he (Saul), trembling and astonished, said, ‘Lord, what do You want me to do?’” 

Acts 9:6 AKJV

So What Lord?

“Lord, what do you want me to do?”

Paul (then Saul) hit the jackpot with that one!

He literally was on a mission to annihilate Christians when he encountered Jesus and asked this question and I find it extremely profound that he asked “What”and not “Why”.

I’m sure in his mind, Paul thought he was doing the right thing for God – eliminating those who professed Jesus the Messiah when the rest of Israel clearly thought otherwise. He legit would have been justified to ask  “Why Lord? I’m kinda trying to wipe this blasphemers from the face of the earth for you!”

But no, it was “Lord what do you want me to do?”

He was instructed to arise, go into the city and then further instructions would come. So blinded, he was led to Damascus where after three days a man named Ananias was sent to him to restore his sight and from there the story of the man who wrote about half of the New Testament and is considered one of the most important figures of the Apostolic Age began.

What’s My What Lord?

“Lord what do you want me to do about this situation?”

“Love you enemies & pray for those who persecute you.”

“Alright Lord. That shouldn’t be too hard….. Done!”

“Pray for them again.


“Pray for them again and again and again.”

“Heeh okay Lord, I don’t even pray that much for myself  but alright…Done!”

“Keep praying for them. Do not tire. In fact take a couple of day’s to fast for them.”

Alright, hold up Lord, I must have not heard you right. Fast for them? Do you know how they have been treating me.  Do you know how much I have cried? And let’s not even talk about the anxiety attacks Lord – and you want to me to fast?”


Needless to say this conversations with Jesus have been my What.

My Why? 👇

Turn’s out it was never about me or how much I thought I was hated. The greater purpose was & still is their soul. I was put into that situation because Jesus wants to use me to draw them to His camp. I am called to be the salt of the earth & the light of the world. Sometimes salt stings and light inflames but for the sake of a beloved soul, I shall keep on.

The gist of it all is that often times for your Why to be revealed, you will need to access your What.

You don’t always need to start with the Why.

So have you been asking a lot of Why’s that have not been forthcoming? How about asking Jesus to reveal the What (could be prayer & fasting, a phone call, lunch date or even a smile) and your Why will sooner or later be revealed.

Love & Light!

4 thoughts on “Don’t Start With Why

  1. Thanks for this! Weird thing, I’ve just been asking a lot of ‘what’s’ and reading this just gave me a why Contradicting, I know, but I guess I love the dynamics of our Father.
    “Turns out it was never about me…”
    Turns out nothing’s really about me but all Him and for His glory.
    Profound thoughts laid out here! Always a good piece!

    1. Thank you Essie! 🙂
      Yes, our Father’s ways are dynamic yet so profound!
      My advice would be – keep praying about the particular situation, it shall eventually be made clear both the what and the why – and yes it is always about Him and for His glory.

      Thank you for reading! I miss you!

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